A “passionate Christian” sent me a message that took a week to get over how upsetting it was.
What amazed me (a feeling that in itself is a miracle, seeing how it managed to surface above the raging fury running through my veins) was the fact that this message was meant to motivate and instruct us in the way we should publicly live our lives. And to add insult to injury, it was worded to read as something you would ever sanction. The title of the message was, ‘DRESS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED’. This message basically admonished people to pay careful attention to their appearance to present an image that is not yet true. Even though this image is what they ultimately would like to see their future selves to be. One of the examples in the message was, if a person wants to be known as a successful banker, they should dress the part. Then it goes on to list the name of designer suits that will be appropriate to be able to give off this ‘vibe’.
Of course I went off on the individual and it is possible I have been deleted as a contact… maybe, but really, are we suppose to approve of this kind of message?
What irked me more was the lame defense the individual put up, which was ‘I’m just saying people should always look clean’, even though the message was laced with ‘dress expensive to earn respect tips’. Oh did I also mention the shady well-intentioned gospel-like way it was written?
It is bad enough people are losing their sense of basic decency, which is to treat everyone equally. And you know the world does not need any more encouragement to add to oppressive hierarchies in daily tries to create; but imagine, people who claim to know you are trying to ‘okay’ it.
Didn’t you tells us not to judge people? Now, we are sneakily trying to approve unfair judgement by dressing it up as assessment. Instead of encouraging people to try to always give their fellow human beings a chance or at least hear them out, we are trying to sum up their life story but their outward appearance. Meanwhile, we are the same world that have a saying, ‘never judge a book by its cover’. These tricks are the kinds of things that make me feel so tired.
So here is my thing, how do we salvage this situation which already seems to have gotten out of hand. You know I researched it and I tell you, it is crazy how many pulpits this same message has gone out from. It is even crazier the large audience of Christians who have bought into it and are re-posting and sharing this message as some kind of truth.
Let’s brainstorm on ideas shall we?…
Okay, this is my suggestion.
In the beginning, you put Adam and Eve naked in the garden, so in my limited thinking, I am guessing ‘naked’ is not such a bad thing in your sight, right? Plus when we step out of our mother’s wombs as Job rightly said, we do so naked. So is it possible to erase the clothe wearing segment of our brains once again and return us to original form?
The thing is once we are in that state, hopefully as blissfully ignorant of it as our first parents were before they sinned, maybe this stronghold of clothes, jewelry and judgement will disappear from our consciousness; we truly need less problems in this world.
If naked is too much because the perversion in the world is too great; maybe sew leaves as covering for us like you did for Adam and Eve. Hopefully we consider it the ultimate end in high fashion and that will be it.
If that is not possible as we are living the consequences of a sinful world, help us who claim to know and love you have Christ-like blockers and sieves in our brains. And may our only heightened sense of fashion be, to be fully clothe in: righteousness, love, goodness, peace and joy.
Imagine wearing those in vivid colors; I dare anyone to call such a person unworthy.
The battle is yours and I am a willing soldier.
Ulan ‘Fully-Clothe Warrior’ Matta.
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